My Day Dream

When I first saw this new Oreo commercial (Philippine Version) on TV, I fell in love with it. In Youtube, I've discovered that this commercial has many versions but only this version has two kids (correct me if I'm wrong). It shows two girls teaching their giant teddy bear how to twist, lick and dunk an Oreo cookie. The fun started when their father joins in and pretended to be the bear.

This commercial made me day dream of the near future. I have two girls and they are both close to their father. No view can be more beautiful than seeing them like this. Their giggles would be music to my ears. I strongly believe, most of the happiest family moments happen at home. :)

Disclaimer: This is not a paid post nor an advertisement. Opinions on this post are solely personal.

Look Alike

How do you prove that your daughter is your “mini me”? Wear the same clothes! We caught a lot of attention while strolling inside the mall wearing our “terno” clothes. 

If wearing the same clothes will not prove that your daughter is your mini duplicate, try this! Look for a picture of you when you were the same age as your daughter and make a collage like this one. So what do you think? Is she my mini me?

By the way, to all of you who are asking where our clothes were purchased, they were purchased at Siana's Boutique (a Facebook online store). 

Unconditional Love

Photo from Justice for Bryce Mosier's Facebook page

Who are we in the eyes of our children? For my children, I am supermom. A hero that can make everything alright. I am no hero, but yes I am a supermom, at least for my children. I may not always know what's best for them but I will try to do the best thing for them. I'm sure all 24/7 mommies out there will agree with me. When we come to a point that we have to choose between a pair of shoes and Barbie, without any doubt, we're going to choose Barbie. Our children's laughter can't buy us a pair of shoes , but we'd rather walk barefooted and be paid with small hugs and kisses. This is how we summarized a mother's love. Genuine. Unconditional. No questions asked.

Lights On Please!

A clip from the movie Don't Be Afraid of the Dark

Last night, while my first mini me was watching Barney, the power went out. She screamed, “Light! Light!”. Then she started panicking. Oh no! She is afraid of the dark? Uh-oh, I wasn't ready for this, I told myself. I was alone with the two kids so I have no right to panic.

Things like this happen. Honestly, I just discovered that she is afraid of the dark. We don’t usually go to dark places. At home, a light is always turned on at night. If this situation ever happens to you, here is what you can do that I did.

Look for a flashlight. Fortunately, I have one in my bag. But unfortunately, its light is not enough to calm her down. At least, I have enough light to look for the candles. I lighted three candles, but still she was demanding for more lights.

Hold his/her hand. I told her “mommy is here”. I assured her that I’ll stay beside her and that I won’t leave her. This made her calm down, but every now and then she was demanding for lights and Barney.

Distract him/her. Thank goodness for chocolates. I gave her some chocolates, and she totally forgot about the lights.

Then finally, the power is back. I do not want the same scenario to happen again. Next time it’s better to be more than ready. Emergency light will now be on my priority list. And probably a portable dvd player for her Barney. :)

Home Management

photo from Sweet Baby Diapers' Facebook page

One of the hardest thing to do when you have a child or children at home is managing your home. I came across this photo and voila, I just know that this one is for me, and for you too! :)

Do you see toys scattered all around the house? Are you running out of kitchen must-haves? Is your laundry piling up? If you answered yes on all of these then consider this tip a necessity on your everyday lives.

Sometimes we tend to be too focused on our kids that we forget about other things. Remember, we are not only 24/7 mommies to our kids but also to our hubbies and our home. We really don't need super powers, time management is the key!

A Lesson Learned from a Child with Autism

photo from Autism Awareness' Facebook page

September 14, 2012. In a jeepney on my way to work, I sat beside a boy. He was very quiet, hugging his umbrella so tight. A lady sat beside me, she requested the boy to move a little. He didn't move or say a thing. His father who is sitting in front of him requested him to move a little and he obediently moved, still hugging his umbrella. The boy leaned beside me, as if he knew me. I was about to ask him not to lean on me but before I can even say a word, his father interrupted as if he knew what I was about to say. He told me, “pagpasensyan me nang special ya” (pardon him, he’s a special child). His father then started to tell the boy’s story. The boy was born with autism. The father said his child used to cry for no reason, he shouts whenever he wants to, he breaks glasses and dishes, he would run as if he doesn't want to be chased and he would poop anywhere. Looking at the boy, I didn't think he could do such things. He was so innocent, so beautiful. He would hug the umbrella so tight as if it was his greatest possession. Continuing the father’s story, the boy went to series of therapies, and he is still undergoing such. His father said the boy improved a lot. He doesn't do the things mentioned above anymore, and that he is good in Mathematics. When the boy was born, their business grew and that is the reason why his therapy was financed. The father was almost teary eyed when he said, “iya ing swerti ku’ (he’s my lucky charm). Finally, I've got the answer to my question without even asking, why does he hug his umbrella so tight? His father told me that the boy shows his love to his little sister through that umbrella. Whenever they walk together, he would hold the umbrella to protect his sister from the heat of the sun (maybe from the rain too). I find myself teary-eyed as well with the boy’s story. Then, I hate that I have to say goodbye to him because I have reached my destination already. I'm happy that he waved his hand to say goodbye to me too, and I'm happier with what he has taught me. It’s not everyday that I encounter things like this. I realized that God’s blessings to each of us are unique. We shouldn't label God as an unfair God for not giving us what we want. Let us thank Him for what He already gave us without asking. Others will think that having a child with autism is a cursed, but the father sees his child as a loving older brother to his baby sister and a lucky charm. Our perspective in life makes all the difference. What we have and we will have are all blessings from God, they just come in disguised sometimes.

Embracing Motherhood

me and my first mini me :)

Like pregnancy, it takes time to accept the role of motherhood. Being a mother, especially for the first time is like entering a new road, and there’s no turning back. It’s an endless journey of learning. A job that has no day offs.

When I first became a mom, I was afraid of so many things. I was excited to hug and kiss my baby, but my excitement ended there. I am more scared than excited to the new responsibilities ahead of me.

One step at a time, I have embraced motherhood. I am still on the process of learning but allow me to share with you some of the first steps in embracing motherhood.

me and my second mini me :)

Ask for help. When I gave birth with my first child, I stayed with my mother. She taught me the basics— how to change diapers, how to bath the baby, how to burp the baby and the likes. Eventually, I learned things by myself. Mothers, sisters or your girlfriends can give you good tips or advises. They can even demonstrate the basics, but just the basics. Remember, there is no lesson on how to be a good mother. It’s up to you to be one.

Don’t be afraid to try. There is a first time for everything, sometimes even second time, third time, fourth time, until you finally get things right. I remember it took me months before I finally bath my first baby all by myself. When I did, it was an achievement. Actually, it was more than an achievement. Her giggles were music to my ears. I also discovered that she loves water. It was a lesson learned. I wouldn't know that she loves swimming in the water if I haven’t tried bathing her.

Avoid mistakes if your baby will be compromised. The first few nights with the baby were painful sleepless nights. I didn't want to fall asleep because I’m afraid of what will happen to her if I even close my eyes. Do not exaggerate but think of the consequences of your actions over and over before doing them. Like what will happen if you fall asleep while you’re bottle feeding your baby?

If you’re losing your patience, pause. I remember my baby crying out so loud that no matter how hard I try, she wouldn't stop. What I wanted to do was just to raise my hands, tell the world that “I surrender” and run away. In as much as I wanted to, I didn't. If this ever happens to you or some similar incident, here’s what you can do. Let the baby cry while you take a deep breath, this should take around five seconds. Then check the baby again for possible reasons of his or her crankiness.

Bear in mind, babies will not remain babies forever. Appreciate the little things that your baby does. Be obsessed with your baby. I was and I still am. Play with them, take pictures of them, kiss them, and hug them while you still can. Before you know it, they will no longer allow you to do such. (Sniff, sniff)

My Journey to Motherhood (times two)

preggo with my second mini me

I was not the typical wife who was happy to see two red lines and was excited to drop the bomb to my husband. In fact, he wasn’t even my husband then. Yes, I wasn’t happy, and yes, I was crying but no, I didn’t think of abortion.

I went out of the bathroom crying after seeing the two red lines. My boyfriend (now my husband) knew exactly what it meant.  I saw poker face. A lot of things were running through my mind that time. Is he happy? How will I tell my parents? How will I tell my boss? Will I call my sister now? But on top of my mind was “I want some nuts right now!” Yes, nuts were one of my first cravings.

To make the long story short, we got engaged, then we married all in the span of two months.

My reaction was somehow the typical reaction of someone who was not ready to have a baby. I never thought of abortion because my baby was never unwanted, just unexpected.

***

Here is the story of my second pregnancy, I wrote this 20 days before I gave birth to my second child.

October 4, 2011-- Two red lines? I couldn't believe my eyes. Kiera has just turned 10 months old last September 17. We were not planning for a new baby, we were planning for her first birthday. I silently walked out of the bathroom and rushed myself to our room. I was about to cry, and with all those actions, I knew my hubby has an idea of what's going on. He entered the room and I showed her the PT result. He told me to do another test just to make sure, but I told him, one is enough evidence, I am pregnant.

I have to admit, it was a painful moment for me. I wasn't ready for another baby, physically and emotionally. I mean, I just had my body back. Plus the fact that I don't have a job at that moment, what will happen to my career? Who would hire a pregnant woman? What will my parents say? What will other people say? Our daughter is not even one year old, and here I am, pregnant again? For a moment, I thought my life was ruined all because of an unplanned pregnancy.

I didn't think of abortion. But I was somehow praying that God will make a way not to continue this pregnancy. I wished I'll slip in the bathroom, stumble or fall somewhere. What a selfish act to even pray for that!

My hubby told me he was happy to have a new baby, but his face didn't justify that. I requested that we'll keep the pregnancy a secret for a while, I told him to reveal it after Kiera's first birthday. But me being close to my sister, I spoiled the news to her a week after. She just lost her baby at that time, and hearing the news made her happy. She told me the baby is another blessing from God. She also told me not to mind other people's opinion. She also helped me revealed the news to our parents. To my surprise, no violent reactions at all, they're just a little worried about our finances.

As days gone by, I found a job. The news was revealed even before Kiera's birthday. I also started to feel better and finally accepted the fact that I'm having a new baby. I revealed it on Facebook too and I received a lot of beautiful comments about the news. Although not all are beautiful, but I didn't mind the negative comments for I am so overwhelmed by my friends’ support on the pregnancy. Not to mention my hubby's constant posting of beautiful things on Facebook like "I am proud of my wife”.

I called her unplanned for I knew we were careful enough not to make a new baby too soon, but she was planned by God. God's timing is always perfect. In about 22 days, I'm going to give birth to a pretty little girl. I never thought the feeling of excitement would be the same as the first one. I love you baby. Forgive mommy for the way I thought of things before. I pray nothing more now than for you to be born healthy. I'll see you real soon sweetheart.

***

I list some of the things that I've learned in my journey to motherhood (times two).

No one is ready for pregnancy. It takes time before the fact will actually sink in to one’s mind. No one is ready for morning sickness, nausea, extra weight, bigger tummy, and most of all the pain of giving birth. So what should one do? Be ready for it! Ask your mother, your sister or your friend who’s been there. Ask them anything, even the silliest question about pregnancy. Read a book about pregnancy. I read Darn Good Advice Pregnancy by Susan Warhus (See photo). Search the net and subscribe to free newsletters. Visit your OB-Gyne. 

There are two major emotions involved in this journey: fear and excitement. Fear because no matter how many bits of information you collect from a person, a book or the internet, you’ll never really know the feeling of everything till they actually happen to you. Excitement, who wouldn't be excited to the fact that you are carrying another life inside you? From the gender to the first cry, what’s not to be excited about? 

Every pregnancy is different. I've been through two different pregnancies. With my first pregnancy, it was not just morning but an all day sickness and nausea was up to the third trimester. My second pregnancy was a lot easier—no nausea, no morning sickness. Bottom line is, never compare. The feeling and development for nine months is unique in every pregnancy, just like the baby growing inside you is. 

Every pregnancy is a blessing. No pregnancy should be considered unwanted. I got pregnant ten months after I gave birth to my first baby. With my second pregnancy, I thought things were less exciting. But I was totally wrong. It was even more exciting to have another baby to love. And then you’ll be thrilled to think about the future when your kids are a little bigger. 

Pain goes away but love stays. Labor and delivery were painful but I can’t remember how painful they were. Seeing my baby for the first time is love at first sight. Love grows everyday. I need not to explain further, this is well taught with experience.